Thereās a moment in One Hour Photo (a brilliant film starring Robin Williams) that says everything. Photos, it suggests, tell future generations one simple thing: I was here, and someone cared enough about me to take my picture.
Thatās it.
Thatās the soul of photography. Not clicks. Presence. Proof of a life lived and loved. We can still have that, if we stop chasing aesthetics and start noticing actual life. Once, taking a photo was a deliberate act. You paused. You framed.
Now? We snap photos like we scroll ā automatically, unconsciously, endlessly. A coffee. A cracked mirror. A strangerās dog weāll never see again.
Weāre not capturing memories. Weāre archiving proof. Proof that we were kind of there. When did anyone last attend a concert just to focus on the music, without thinking about taking photos?
Weāve stopped asking the only question that matters:
What are we actually trying to remember?
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We donāt live the moments. We digitise them
Today, you donāt go to a cliff, a cafĆ© or a concert without documenting it. Not to preserve it. Not to remember it. But to digitise it. To prove it happened. To perform it for people who werenāt even there.
We donāt live the moments. We curate them.
We scroll through sunsets we never actually watched. Concerts we barely heard. Dinners we posed for but didnāt fully experience.
Weāre not present.
One Hour Photo puts it well: the little things nobody bothers to photograph make up the true picture of our lives.
Instagram doesnāt care about your photos. And it shows.
In a sense, Instagram changed photography for the worse ā and hereās what I mean. Not intentionally, and not all at once, but through algorithm shifts, video dominance, and an obsession with virality over emotion.
Post a stunning photo ā timeless, honest, human ā and watch it die in silence.
Many of us have been there. Posting a meaningful image ā light and shadow, a quiet moment ā and getting 11 likes. Meanwhile, someone uploads a 10-second Reel with glitchy captions and ambient music called āhow to romanticize your sad girl eraā or āwhat I eat in a day,ā and boom. 84k views. 2k saves. No soul.
People donāt like photos anymore. They like motion. They like trends. They like dopamine.
Photography isnāt the end goal anymore. Itās just something to post.
If youāre a photographer? A visual storyteller?
You either entertain or you vanish.
What weāre left with isnāt memory.
Itās engagement.
When the last photo is a filtered one
Death isnāt something people like to think about. Especially not while taking selfies. But maybe we should. Because that filtered Snapchat photo ā the one with glowing skin, bug eyes, dog ears ā might be the last image you have of someone you loved.
And suddenly, itās not so funny anymore.
Itās devastating.
We had thousands of chances to take one real photo. One that captured their laugh, or their āugly laugh,ā their eyes. The way they tilted their head when they told a joke. But we were too busy tweaking. Too busy getting the angle right. Too busy editing for the feed. We werenāt with them. We were performing them. And then it was too late.
When real doesnāt perform
I know Iāll never trend on Instagram. And thatās fine. Iām just not that kind of person. I donāt chase whatās popular. I donāt think in trending audio or aesthetic formulas.
I share things that feel real to me ā even if they donāt fit the algorithm. Iād rather be honest than optimised. Present than performative.
But every time I publish a blog post and share it with care ā choose the image, write the caption, let it breathe ā I get one like. Maybe two.
Sometimes I end up deleting it. Not because Iām ashamed of it. But because the silence makes it feel like it never mattered. And I know, I know, Iām supposed to post anyway. Iām supposed to say I donāt care about numbers. But I do care. Not about popularity. About presence.
Because when you make something honest, something that actually meant something to you, and it gets swallowed by an algorithm and forgotten in 30 seconds⦠that stings.
The effort feels pointless. The beauty feels invisible. The voice feels wasted.
So it goes into the archive, as if it never happened.
But the truth is:
It did. It always does. And thatās what hurts the most.
The strategy circus nobody asked for
At some point, posting a photo turned into a part-time job. Not photography or storytelling, but āplaying the algorithm.ā
Youāre told to:
Like 25 posts an hour before you post. Comment on 10 Reels. Reply to your own caption. Post at a āmagic time.ā Engage for an hour afterwards or the algorithm will punish you. And oh, donāt forget to save your own post and watch your own Reel three times.
All of this⦠just to maybe get seen.
I really dislike this.
I didnāt sign up for that.
I just wanted to share a moment.
And the worst part?
It works.
It works for people who treat their feeds like funnels. Who plan every āspontaneousā moment. Who hack the system and still call it creative.
But what about the rest of us?
The ones sharing quietly, intentionally, imperfectly?
We get buried.
Closing remarks
Despite everything ā algorithms, engagement hacks, disappearing art ā I still love photography. Not the kind that performs. The kind that notices. The kind that sees a shadow fall just right or captures a laugh no one else heard. I edit my photos, sure. I add light, warmth, sometimes a touch of mood. But I donāt fake rainbows in New York or drop in auroras that never happened. Because photography, to me, isnāt about fantasy. Itās about memory. Itās about truth, even if itās quiet. Even if no one claps. Iāll keep my style. Because thatās what photography has always been for me: not performance, just presence.
I chose this photo as the header ā Big Ben rising behind a red London bus ā for a reason. Time stands still in the background, solid and unbothered, while the world rushes by in front of it, loud and branded. Thereās even a travel ad on the bus, selling a destination most people will only ever see through someone elseās Instagram. And thatās the point. Weāre always moving, always posting, always promoting. But somewhere behind the noise, the quiet moments ā like this one ā still wait to be noticed. This image isnāt trending. It just exists. And maybe thatās exactly what makes it worth keeping.



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